Domestication
Since I’ve been living on my own, I feel as though I have become more domesticated. Or maybe its more the fact that it has always been there, but just never given a time to shine.
I live in a townhouse with two boys. People know me as “mama bear”. Is it just boys instinct to leave things everywhere without picking them up? I’m not complaining, because I have put myself in this situation. But I am starting to realize how moms feel. I’m fuckin 25!! I don’t think I’m supposed to know what a mom feels! Glasses everywhere, mail, papers … wrapers… dishes!!! I tested it out once. Didn’t do a goddamn thing for a week. Needless to say the house was a mess!!!
Why can’t they clean the bathroom, wash dishes, or take out the garbage without being asked? I am absolutely perplexed. Dishes are dirty, wash them. Garbage is full, take it out. Why do I consantly have to ask them to do things?
My theory is this. Perhaps they came from a family where, they didn’t have to do a goddamn thing. Mom was always there to pick up after them, wash their dishes, cook, whatever. Now if this is the case, does that mean I have to take that role? Or am I allowed to nag and nag without them resenting me.
So … at the age of 25, I am now raising a 26 year old and a 30 year old.
Your thoughts would be greatly appreciated.